November 21, 2005 Issue

Cover Story
The New Monogamy
Dirty IMing with strangers, heavy flirting at clubs, lap dances, three-ways, four-ways, taking a bath with someone you met at a bar because your girlfriend is busy: As long as it’s negotiated in advance, there seems to be no limit to the amount of cheating that some couples will allow in the name of making a relationship last.
Mating: The Issue
Everything You Don't Want to Know About Your Kid’s Sex Life
We surveyed 100 kids about sexual activity and then asked 100 parents what they thought their kids were up to. And guess what? The answers don’t quite add up.
The Porn Hunter
Mark Rotenberg spends his days trolling through auction Websites, estate sales, and garbage bins for dirty pictures. It’s his job.
Is the World Ready for Libido in a Nasal Spray?
PT-141 is a lot like Viagra�except that it actually increases desire and not just blood flow and might help women as much as it does men. In other words, this is going to be a very popular drug.
The Vagina Dialogues
Five sex columnists kiss and tell.
Grizzly Men
Not every gay man aspires to muscles. In the wilds of the city, you will find a growing number of bears. And cubs. And otters. And wolves.
Intelligencer
Judith Miller, Right-Wing Hero?
�I’m agnostic,� says conservative-blog kingpin.
Will Ferrer's Big Loss Cool Spitzer's Ardor for Ramirez?
Some rival Dems are smelling blood in the water for stalwart power player Roberto Ramirez.
Sirio Maccioni’s Grub: Condo Amenity For Peckish Millionaires
The marketing circus around Le Cirque has begun.
Canceled TV D.A. Leads Jury, Can’t Find her Mark
�The first couple of times I approached the grand jury, I was looking around for my mark,� Carlson says.
Jean Valjean Upper East Side Cantor
�Do you hear the people sing?�
It Happened Last Week
Democratic Party leaders absorbed the important lesson that, in a political campaign, money trumps salsa.
Do You Wanna Dance?
New York’s cabaret laws are challenged by an unlikely troupe of dance enthusiasts and civil-rights lawyers.
Capitalists . . .In. . .Spaaace!
Local tycoons sought for trip into orbit.
MySpace Invaders
What does your online profile say about your employability? Recent grads are finding out H.R. isn’t their friendster.
In Like Quinn?
Forget the mayoral election� it’s time for the race for city council speaker! Not that you get a vote.
Strategist
Best Bets
A showgirl-style ostrich-and-pheasant-feather mask, plus magnetic paint, durable slippers, and more.
Ask a Shop Clerk
Oscar Adames of Saks Fifth Avenue denim department.
Shop News
Store openings this week.
Sales & Bargains
This week's hottest sales & bargains.
Look Book
A Ghanaian diplomat’s daughter who quit modeling for school.
Focus Group
What the kids are saying about new Fifth Avenue tenant Abercrombie & Fitch.
Restaurant Review
Cookshop serves deliciously homey American food in the middle of Chelsea.
In Season
An orange cauliflower recipe.
Restaurant Openings & Buzz
Week of Nov. 14, 2005: DuMont Burger, Chocolat Michel Cluizel, The Plant, and Anthony's.
Calculating Pie
The city’s top pies, classic and avant-garde divisions.
Holiday Helpers
Why not take the whole dysfunctional family out to eat this time, and blame the dry turkey on the professionals? A feast to fit any personality.
Bird Flights
If a restaurant Thanksgiving is too formal and cooking is out of the question, there’s always takeout.
The Devil You Say
The deviled egg�that old fifties-cocktail-party standby�has made a bite-size comeback.
Travel
The latest from Jackson Hole.
Real Estate
Market-rate rentals creep onto Roosevelt Island.
The Culture Pages
Turn On. Tune In. Take Over.
The future of TV is on-demand downloads and tiny screens. But will the shows be any better?
Movie Review
Great Reese Witherspoon and Joaquin Phoenix performances can’t redeem a mediocre script.
Beware the Undulating Curve of Shifting Expectations!
Oscar buzz works on a reverse sonic-boom principle: Your hear it (the buzz) before you see it (the movie).
Tv Review
The West Wing debate taught us how great the world might be without pundits.
The Poseidon Adventure Reviewed
As in the original, ingenuity matters more than acting, plus there are grenades and fins.
Watch This Instead
Try something completely different: documentaries that try to make telelvision an agency of the Enlightenment instead of a circle of hell.
Books
Frank McCourt on the world’s toughest crowd: high schoolers.
Handicapping the National Book Awards
Publishing’s Oscars have traded last year’s obscurantism for a new affinity�historical novels about real people�and Norman Mailer is getting the lifetime-achievement award. The lineup, the backstory, and the likely outcome.
Theater Review
A crowd-pleasing Frankie Valli musical gives New Jersey the respect it so rarely receives.
Art Review
For all of Richard Tuttle’s confrontational modernness, his work is oddly warm.
The Approval Matrix
Our deliberately oversimplified guide to who falls where on our taste hierarchies.
The Week
New on DVD
Movies new on DVD this week include: Sherman's March, Buffy the Vampire Slayer Collector's Set, Stealth, Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, The Skeleton Key, and more.
Columns
The Power Grid
Are Rahm Emanuel and the Democrats going to blow their chance to reverse the Republican Revolution?
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